When
Healing Comes
By Dr. Mel Glazer
What We
have all been educated to acquire things.
We have been taught how to get an education,
get a job, buy a house. There are lots
of courses to teach us whatever it is
that we need to know. But what education
do we receive about dealing with loss?
Where can we go to learn to deal with
the conflicting feelings caused by significant
emotional loss? Loss is so much more
predictable and inevitable than gain,
and yet we are woefully unprepared to
deal with it.
Whether
you suffer from the death of a loved
one, the death of a
not-so-loved
one, divorce, breakup, being fired
from your job, sexual or spouse abuse,
emotional
trauma, loss of trust or any other
significant loss, the grief you feel
can be paralyzing.
Some people suffer from losses that
happened 20 years ago, and some suffer
from the
losses we all sustained on 9/11. We
are all grievers.
Grief is
the conflicting mass of human emotion
that we experience
following
any change in a familiar pattern of behavior.
Grief just doesn’t “take
time,” there are small and steady
steps necessary to “say goodbye” and
go on living.
When you
can say good-bye to your loss and are
able to move on
to life, end
your isolation from those you love,
and regain joy and passion and celebration,
then you have healed.
When you
heal, you will...
* Be able
to mention important life-losses
without tears or fears.
* No longer
need to talk about the past with anger.
*
Say goodbye to loved ones, and to less-than-loved
ones.
* Let go
of those images which cause you to doubt
yourself and your
ability.
* Project
a positive self-image to yourself and
to the world.
* Raise
your kids with love and confidence.
*
Learn how to forgive those who have
hurt you in the past.
* Freely
embrace those who love you.
And then
your losses will be your life-teachers
forever.
And then you will journey from
mourning to morning…
Dr.
Mel Glazer • Your Grief Matters
1.877.532-4246 (1.877.LECHAIM)
mel@yourgriefmatters.com •
www.yourgriefmatters.com
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